|Posted on August 12, 2020 at 1:40 PM|
When I was younger my dad and I ran a scrap metal business on his days off from the fire department. When I was around age fourteen dad had cut up a large amount of two in pipe that we were going to take across the scales along with a load of copper and other metals. Dad believes that a full-sized pickup wasn’t meant to haul sunshine so he made sure it was loaded to the max and packed well. He was prepping some of the other metal to be loaded while I put the pipe in the truck. Once I completed the task, I let him know. He came over and let me know that the way I had stacked it in the truck wasn’t going to work and that I would have to unload it and then reload the pipe. As a fourteen year old young man this did not set well with me so in order to unload it I started just chunking the three foot sections of pipe across the yard because I was so mad. It felt good to do that but then I realized that I had to go pick it all up but it was too late and the pipe was scattered all over the yard. That made it even worse and I became more upset at myself. I then proceeded to pick the pipe up and carry it back to the truck which took some time but did it anyway. After gathering it all back together I asked dad to show me how he wanted it stacked. He instructed me to start at the front of the truck bed and lay the pipe length way with the bed going across with pipe side by side. Then stack another row on top of that until it was all stacked nice and snug. I did this and before long there were three rows of pipe stacked from the bottom of the truck bed to just below the tip of it. When I did it the correct way things fit much better and there was ample room for much more.
With addiction we do the same thing in haphazardly throwing things around in and out of our lives without regard of where it lands or how it looks. Drugs and alcohol hamper us from making the best decisions to overcome trauma and other poor choices we have perpetually not addressed. We tend to let our emotions get the best of us and not conduct ourselves in a positive way but rather in a negative which breaks us down more than we are. We have to take time to properly assess our situation and come up with a plan that might not make sense but try it since what we have been doing over and over doesn’t seem to be working. Take what has been learned by others who know what they are doing and follow their lead. We will need to take our time and pick up the junk we’ve tossed around and stack things in a way that organizes our lives into something productive instead of destructive. We might even have to ask for help and that’s not a bad thing but something which shows growth. When we do it the correct way we don’t have to go back and do it again. We must stay true to that and not waiver so that we don’t fall into the downward spiral darkness from where we once were. As much as I was temporarily upset at my dad for making me unload and reload the pipe in the truck, I’m thankful for the lesson of doing things right in order to make the most out of what has been given. My hope is that even in our addiction we can put this into practice and make the most of our lives. Peace.
John D. Gambill, MA – LCDC
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